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Listen to Your Mama
posted by Amy

From the Boston Globe, Ellen Goodman's latest:

But if Terry [Hekker] ''worries and wonders" about another generation of ''opt-outers," how many others share that anxiety for their daughters? Life is long. Hands-on parenting is relatively short. The costs may be lifelong. Yet, while Terry recants, new recruits repeat her old arguments.

Will this combat in the mommy zone ever die down? I belong to a generation of working mothers who traded depression for stress. Not such a bad bargain. I'd make it again in a minute. But as an embedded correspondent in this social change, I am struck by how hard it still is to take care of others and ourselves.

We still haven't made work bend to the arc of life and love. Nor have we made it easy to opt back into the workforce after you opt out. As long as this is cast as an individual choice, as long as it's left to the mommy warriors, the rest of society gets off the hook.